“For most of us, the notion that some of our teachers might be monsters simply never crossed our minds.”
Following the explosive New York Times Magazine article last year, more people have spoken out about their child abuse experiences at Horace Mann, a prestigious private school in the Bronx. Child abuse and sexual violence are always heartbreaking to hear – no one deserves that kind of violation and lifelong pain by people who they should be able to trust. No one.
Marc Fisher is an alum and wrote an excellent long form article on the cult of one abuser, Robert Berman. I can only imagine the months of reporting that went into this story to not only find out what happened but to find former students who would be willing to speak out.
It’s well worth the read if you have the chance.
The Fear of Surrendering Again
Julia Anne Miller’s piece on learning to trust and love again in the NYT’s Modern Love column:
“I know this life cannot be lived without dependencies, micro-webs of ritual and ardor and economies of need that bind us all together. But how do we stand up to loss? And love again without holding something back?”
“I found some power and peace in never doing anything much about what happened. In forgetting. But I don’t forget. Every once in a while, I remember more. At some point, I had a flashback of his being on top of me, and of my saying no, and of trying to push him off me.
I see on Facebook that he has a wife and two kids — a girl and a boy. I don’t know if he has ever cared to understand what he did that night, or if he did it again when he went on to play football in college. The boys who raped the girl in Steubenville have had to face a measure of justice. The boy who attacked me never will. Unlike for me, it is easy for him to remain unconscious of it all forever, if he so chooses.”
Christ, it didn’t seem to matter. Black or White. Liberal or Conservative. White collar or Blue. Nobody could run shit. And it wasn’t just Detroit. Sacramento, Washington, D.C., Wall Street. The entire country was being run into the ground by a generation infected with incompetence and greed.
– Charlie LeDuff, Detroit: An American Autopsy, 2013
LeDuff’s new book is, by far, the best thing you will read on the state of Detroit’s demise, the American economy, race relations, political corruption, print journalism’s downfall, and an autobiography of a man and a city with too many personal demons to count. Buy it, read it, love it. Go.